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Thanks to all whom have patiently answered my questions and shared your work, tips and tricks.

I have been out for a while and probably will be for a while more but I promise to be back eventually and especially when I actually get to start on my AGB project.

Long story short my wife of seven years either has borderline Personality Disorder or is Bipolar but of course can not see it and is too proud to get Psychological help despite the recomendation of her physician and her own mother besides me.

She has chosen divorce over getting help but due to her spending excess and refusal to be accountable to a budget we are still stuck together in the same house until she can save some money up for furnishings.

She went into another one her nuclear meltdowns in front of the kids on Christmas eve and again Christmas day. plus my mother had been in the hospital over Christmas as well so it was not the happiest of hollidays I'm afraid.

I'm heart broken most of all for the kids. Alex is 11 and came with my wife the product of a previous divorce. I have know him since he was three. Autumn is six and is the apple of my eye. She is a big time daddy's girl and the thought of having to do joint custody and the chaos that goes with it is killing me.

The house will go up for sale after school is out, I will lose 1/2 my equity and have to start over at 43 as a single dad.

I don't believe in divorce but do not have a choice in this matter. My life should be much more peaceful once the dust settles and I am no longer walking on pins and needles at home but still the kids don't deserve this.

I'm sure some of you have been through this before and can relate.

Anyway I hope I am not sharing too much but I did not want to just drop off the forum without explanation and a promise to be back.

God Bless,

Scott

Dear Scott, it must be really tough for you, hang in there brother, i and others i'm sure will pray for the best to you and yours, the kids are the first victims of this so be strong my good man, for you and especially for them !

YF Serge

Scott, I can totally relate. This summer I was seperated also. As a consequence, I no longer live with my precious baby girl.

That is definitely the hardest part of it all. I'm glad to not have to live a high drama at home, but I miss my kids (son from a previous relationship) terribly.

All you can do is show them that you love them as best you can and be strong for them, as obviously, mom isn't.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Best,

Alain

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I'd like to be able to prove, just for once, that money wouldn't make me happy...

Scott, I'm very sorry to hear about you situation. I too can relate since I went through something very similar about 7 years ago. We were married for 22 years and all of a sudden she started having the same problems you describe.

I know it will be hard for both of you but you will come out fine on the other side. Sometimes it doesn't feel like it, but you will.

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Dave Rector
Rector Guitars

Thanks all.

Oh and Scott, you've shared your story at the right place, you'll get continuous support from us all my friend.